Your ‘Real Job’ Is Probably A Myth

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Your ‘Real Job’ Is Probably A Myth

Challenging cultural assumptions about work, mastery, and true professionalism.

The edges of the cards are the first thing you notice. Not sharp, but a specific kind of smooth, a compressed firmness that tells you they’re new. Your thumb learns the pressure needed to peel one, then two, then a perfect fan from the deck. It’s a language spoken by millimeters and tension, a conversation that happens 288 times an hour. Then the voice cuts through the low hum of the floor.

‘So, is this just for fun, or do you have a real job?’

I’ve heard a variation of that question 18 times. I used to get angry. I’d want to explain the 248 hours of initial training, the background checks that go deeper than most corporate gigs, the constant surveillance that makes an open-plan office look like a private retreat. I’d want to talk about the math, the constant, flashing arithmetic of payouts and odds that has to be faster than a calculator and 100% accurate, 100% of the time. But I’ve learned that anger is a useless response. The question isn’t malicious. It’s a symptom of a cultural sickness: the deep, unexamined belief that a ‘profession’ is something that happens in a cubicle after four years of university debt, and a ‘job’ is anything involving your hands.

I used to believe it, too. That was my mistake. Years ago, I looked at people who did skilled manual or service work and, in a part of my brain I wasn’t proud of, I mentally filed them under ‘job.’ The mechanic, the chef, the bartender, the locksmith. I saw the action, not the architecture behind it. I saw the hands, not the mind guiding them. It took meeting a man named Ethan D.R. to permanently rewire my thinking. Ethan is a cemetery groundskeeper. If you were to describe his work, you’d say he cuts grass, trims hedges, and digs holes. That is, technically, correct. It’s also like saying an architect ‘draws lines.’

A New Perspective Takes Root

The simple act of observing Ethan D.R. transformed my understanding of what truly defines a profession. It wasn’t about the job title, but the depth of knowledge and care.

Ethan manages 48 acres of what he calls ‘living history.’ He can tell you the soil pH in every section, explaining how the acidity affects the limestone headstones from the 1888 plots differently than the granite ones from the 1948 section. He’s a self-taught geologist and a chemist out of necessity. He has to understand botany, knowing which types of moss are destructive and which are harmlessly aesthetic. He operates heavy machinery with a precision that would make a surgeon nod in appreciation, because scraping a 200-year-old monument is an unforgivable sin. He has a code of conduct as rigid as any doctor’s: absolute reverence, quiet dignity, and an awareness that he is the steward of memory for thousands of families. He holds a dozen small certifications for everything from pesticide application to historical preservation. But he doesn’t have a bachelor’s degree. Ask someone at a dinner party what Ethan does, and they’ll say he has a job. They would be profoundly wrong.

Defining True Professionalism

This is the heart of the matter. We’ve been fed a lie that the primary difference between a job and a profession is a framed piece of paper. The real difference is:

  • A specialized body of knowledge
  • A code of ethics (spoken or unspoken)
  • Requirement for licensure or certification
  • A high standard of practice & Accountability

There is no accountability in just showing up.

Answering emails is a task. A job is a collection of tasks. But when your performance can be audited by a gaming commission, when a single procedural error can cost you a license you spent months earning, you are not ‘just doing a job.’ You are practicing a profession. The stakes are real. The standards are external and unforgiving. This isn’t just semantics; it’s about dignity. It’s about recognizing that mastery isn’t confined to boardrooms and libraries. You can find it in the controlled chaos of a restaurant kitchen, the quiet precision of a machine shop, or the fluid economy of a dealer’s hands.

I’ve seen corporations try to fake this. They roll out new software-some multi-thousand-dollar platform that promises to streamline professional development-and for weeks, everyone is forced to click through modules and watch videos about synergy. It feels like we just did this 18 months ago. We update our skills on a profile nobody reads, and management gets a dashboard full of meaningless green checkmarks. They’ve confused the symbols of professionalism with the substance of it. They think adding a layer of digital bureaucracy somehow elevates the work. It doesn’t. It’s a hollow gesture. Ethan doesn’t have a professional development portal. His development is etched into the landscape he manages. His progress is measured by the health of a 138-year-old oak tree.

Grounded in Reality, Driven by Consequence

True professional development isn’t found in abstract dashboards, but in demonstrable skills and immediate, tangible consequences.

Abstract Office Work

Diffused accountability, vague outcomes.

Real-World Professions

Immediate feedback, tangible consequences.

This is why the training for a role like a casino dealer is so rigorous. It’s not about just learning the rules of Blackjack. It’s about internalizing hundreds of procedures, mastering chip handling, and developing the situational awareness to protect the game. It’s a craft that demands practice, precision, and a specific temperament. The curriculum at a reputable casino dealer school is designed to forge professionals, not just train employees. They instill the code. They drill the procedures until they are muscle memory. They teach you to be the unwavering, impartial engine of the game. You become the source of trust at the table.

I’ve tried to explain this before, and sometimes I see a flicker of understanding. I tell them that the average person can’t simply walk in off the street and do this. Not well, not for more than ten minutes. It requires a specific skill set, honed and validated. I’ll admit, I used to think a profession had to involve a high level of creativity or strategic decision-making. But I was wrong about that too. A profession can also be about flawless execution. Think of a pilot. A huge part of their profession is following a checklist, a rigid procedure, every single time. We don’t want them to be creative with the pre-flight inspection. We want precision and adherence to a standard. That is their professional duty.

Precision Over Creativity

The highest forms of professionalism often demand meticulous adherence to standards, where flawless execution is paramount.

So why the cultural blind spot? I think it’s because we associate money with value, and we associate degrees with higher earning potential. It’s a mental shortcut that’s become a bias. We see the cap and gown as the entry gate to a ‘career,’ and everything else as a placeholder. We forget that some of the most essential, skilled, and difficult roles in our society are filled by people who chose a different path. A path of apprenticeships, certifications, and hands-on mastery.

Ethan D.R. will never be called a professional by the people at that dinner party. But every morning, he walks his 48 acres and consults a mental library of knowledge that would overwhelm most college graduates. He practices his craft with a quiet dignity that needs no external validation. And across town, a woman with nimble fingers and a mind like a steel trap will take her place at a felt table. She’ll slide 8 decks out of the shoe, and for the next 8 hours, she will practice her profession, one perfectly dealt card at a time, regardless of what anyone else calls it.

Redefining what it means to be a professional.